Staying open

Watch yourself when you’re open, open to your surroundings, to people and places. What makes you turn away, change the topic needlessly, leave physically or figuratively. Are you done, are you bored, impatient to get on to the next ‘thing’?

If there is no need to leave, try staying until there is. See what happens. Many times we cut situations off far too quickly, before the moment has yielded its fruit for us. Many words, words that might have been spoken from the heart are not, due to hurrying along to the next item on our agenda.

Did you see the first time a bird landed at your feeder?

Own your life

We must not lose track of the fact that this is our life-No one else’s.Our life is OUR responsibility.

It becomes terribly confusing and quite messy when we try to live our life for others.

It is far better to live ones life with others. (Much word there)

Our egos are terribly complicated things. One wants in many ways to weaken it so that it is more able to see reality as it is.I do not say this in the manner of speaking that we become a pile of mush, not ever!

But that we become able to see the world unfiltered, no through all of our filters. Then we are both able to act properly and be in proper relationship to our world. The world will always break through and continually teach us as to what is actually reality. So in many ways our job is to train our minds to let go and then to behave accordingly. The more we do this the more authentic our lives are, the less we do this the less authentic our lives are.

It is very simple, yet very hard to do.

It takes practice, practicing all of our life.

holding hands

Many of us haven’t discovered that we have a mind and that it can be worked with.

We wake up and run on autopilot.

We CAN work with our mind.

We can watch how it works, how thoughts arise, how we hold them or let them go.

We CAN choose what thoughts we cling to and what we let simply rise and fall.

We CAN choose new things or objects to place are mind on.

In one month, how many of the things we have worried about will matter? Let alone in a year!

Choose what is important and dwell there.

The Mahayana instruction for the ejection of consciousness at death is the five strengths: How you conduct yourself is important.

I have been studying a group of  around 59 slogans known as the Lojong slogans written down in the 12th Century in Tibet. They are proposed as a way to lessen human suffering.

The details of this one:

Opening and letting go when the appearances of the world begin to dissolve around you.

Practice doing this often during your life.

Trust you have the ability to have compassion for others.

Realizing that your identity isn’t solid, as you die do not try to keep it from falling apart.

Wish to spend you future lives with those who can teach you and to work for the benefit of others.

As I have just turned 65, this slogan holds more urgency and poignancy for me. Now is the time to practice these instructions.

Perhaps it can be of benefit to you,now.

Male and Female within

In our lives, we often here that one thing is a feminine trait and another is a masculine trait

Or that he’s all man

She’s all woman

What if we are both?

What if we are a union of ‘male’ and ‘female’?

Long ago, in Indian spiritual thought the feminine, Shakti, was considered the feminine principle and the embodiment of all energy, (Kind of the opposite of what we think now.) and Shiva, the male principle, was considered the embodiment of all consciousness.

It was only when the two were United that the world was brought forth fully.

A world of only energy or things with no consciousness can not exist.

A world of only consciousness with no energy or things can not exist.

It is these two elements that we must unite within ourselves in order to manifest fully as humans.

Awareness

With so much digital communication, we now see the tremendous rarity of even having some shred of self awareness of our minds craving, fear and simply not caring.

To have discovered this within ourselves is a tremendous blessing.

To have even the desire to cultivate a sense of equanimity is a further rarity.

If you see even a shred of this within yourself, try to be with it, try to be brave.

Reactivity 

I am reactive

More than I wish I was 

So being reactive is the stepping stone to discovering part of who I am.

I try to remember how fleeting thoughts are, as in the Wizard of Oz-‘People come and go so quickly here …’

or the wise saying

Good and Bad

Happy and Sad

All Things vanish

Like the imprint 

Of a Bird in the Sky