In choosing to be with another to be with any other human being, we are choosing their set  of workable and their set of intractable problems.

In their choosing to be with us, they are choosing our set of workable and intractable problems.

There is no escape from one person to another, just different sets of problems.

We can only try our best to work with their problems and hope they do the same w ours.

How we place our focus is pretty important.

One photo is the fireplace at the public library in Rockland, Maine

the other is the paint peeling om the window frame above it.